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What would you share with parents of children with ASD who are considering a dog or cat?

tags: asd dog cat

posted over 5 years ago by A MyAutismTeam User
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we have a cat and its a great thing it helps him calm down when he needs it.

posted about 2 months ago

What bits of "advice" do you wish people would stop telling you?

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posted 5 months ago by A MyAutismTeam User
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people tell me to punish Michael when he smacks his jaw or shrieks in public when kids are screaming right in front of us because they aren't getting what they want… read more

posted 19 days ago

Has autism, or is autistic?

I'm curious to know what others say when characterizing their young child's disorder in a context where it's necessary to identify it, such as arranging for special accommodations.

"I have a child with autism."
"I have an autistic child."
"My child is on the autism spectrum."
"I have a child with special needs."
"I have a child that is smarter than me but can't tie his own shoelaces."

Don't mean to stir up controversy. I'm just interested in how others feel about this.

tags: autism autistic special needs

posted over 2 years ago by A MyAutismTeam User
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For me, it depends on where and who we are speaking with. If they are ignorant people who I feel we have to explain every single solitary thing to....I go with… read more

posted 3 months ago

How do you feel about pressure from schools to mainstream your child out of special ed?

I'm worried that Ryan will be forced to give up his unique perspective to comply and fit into mainsteam classes. He is only in Pre-K and there is pressure being applied to get him out of special ed into regular Kindergarten by next year. I feel they dont know him well enough, and with his delays I think it's setting him up for failure.
Can I hear from parents with children that have gone the route into mainstreaming, and some… read more

tags: special ed mainstreaming

posted over 5 years ago by A MyAutismTeam User
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I have and never will understand or feel good about mainstreaming. This is not to change the minds of those of you who this has worked out well for, but for my… read more

posted 3 months ago

Have any of you reached the point where you have stopped mourning the life you imagined your child WOULD have had if not for autism?

I remember the exact moment I stopped mourning. About 2 years ago, I was watching a group of mothers at my son's school playground chatting and lamenting about their kids and the typical social drama that they were going through. It hit me that he does not judge people at all in that way and he never will. I admired that about him. And I let go of that imagined child's life and dove… read more

tags: neurotypical sad mourning wish cure hopeful acceptance appreciation

posted about 5 years ago by A MyAutismTeam User
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My husband and I have been out to dinner without our son 6 times in his whole life. His grandparents loved him but didn't help one bit with him. He never slept away… read more

posted 8 months ago

Anyone ever lose friends because of their child's autism?

I had a friend that this past year was also my sons preschool teacher. During the year I never really noticed that she seemed like she became real distant. The other teacher had mentioned to me that my friend did not really know how to handle Kade when he had his meltdowns. I honestly did not say anything I figured my friend would ask me if she needed help I trusted her and Kade seemed happy enough with school. So now that school has been out two months for… read more

posted over 3 years ago by A MyAutismTeam User
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As a Special Education Educator, let me say that your son's teacher is not and should not be your friend. If he is to be placed in a friend's classroom you need to… read more

posted 10 months ago

Does anyone have advice for how to respond to rude comments from strangers?

My daughter has a lot of sensory processing problems which we are working on with OT. These challenges for her become extreme when we need to take her grocery shopping . The rude comments from strangers has been getting worse... Before they would say something to me or give me the "bad parent" glare but lately some have had the nerve to say things to her. A few weeks ago I actually witnessed 2 adult women photographing her while laughing… read more

posted over 3 years ago by A MyAutismTeam User
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@A MyAutismTeam User from when I first answered your question 3 years ago with this advice (that I now put on a blog… read more

posted about 2 months ago

How do you get through hygiene care without meltdowns?

How can I get my 10 year old aspie son to shower & brush his teeth without melting down? The toothpaste, regardless of brand & flavor
Causes him gag and sometimes, vomit. The shower thing is beyond me..once he gets in..he sings along to his shower music (the beatles ) and he is fine. How do you do it? And I will sing your praises forever if anyone knows of a flavorless toothpaste or one that's NOT bubblemint,cinnamon,mint ect...he LOATHES cinnamon… read more

tags: Brushing teeth Shower hygiene

posted about 5 years ago by A MyAutismTeam User
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Trader Joe's and the toothpaste I got from the flavor at all.......

posted 5 months ago

What would you share with parents who are considering a new dog or cat?

tags: pets

posted 5 months ago by A MyAutismTeam User
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As far as I'm concerned I would have to state that if anyone is considering pets for any child or adult at any age for any special needs it will be a trial and error… read more

posted 29 days ago

Should an Aspie child be told about their diagnosis?

I'm trying to decide whether or not to tell my 11 1/2 yr. old son about his diagnosis... And if I decide to tell him; what to say that is age appropriate. His therapist doesn't see the need unless he asks. I've mentally made a list of the possible pros and cons... Telling him would explain some things for him, but I don't want to run the risk of him regressing in some way or using this information as an excuse to not be the best he can be. A little background… read more

tags: Asperger's asperger's syndrome Diagnosis Discussing Results When to tell your child

posted about 5 years ago by A MyAutismTeam User
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I went to a lecture recently given by a Aspergers expert and she works with adults. She said that most people who get the diagnosis as adults regret not knowing when… read more

posted over 1 year ago

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