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Have Any Of You Reached The Point Where You Have Stopped Mourning The Life You Imagined Your Child WOULD Have Had If Not For Autism?
A MyAutismTeam Member asked a question 💭

I remember the exact moment I stopped mourning. About 2 years ago, I was watching a group of mothers at my son's school playground chatting and lamenting about their kids and the typical social drama that they were going through. It hit me that he does not judge people at all in that way and he never will. I admired that about him. And I let go of that imagined child's life and dove fully into what is gratefully here :-)

A MyAutismTeam Member

That is so beautiful . The last bit there really touched my heart . Too many perents never get to this stage and often when they do its too late and there's resentment festering all over the place… read more

posted July 9, 2019
Has Anyone Had Success In Getting Their Child Involved In Any Sports / Athletic Activities?
A MyAutismTeam Member asked a question 💭

I was wondering if any parents have had success in integrating their child into a sport or physical activity of any kind?

My middle (autistic) boy has taken up BMX (bicycle moto-cross)racing and has become unbelievably successful at it in less than 2 years. He is even sponsored by a bicycle shop and an apparel company. He is now being "scoped out" by a HUGE bicycle company's factory team. Unreal. I have noticed that there are many kids at the race track and skate parks that are clearly on the… read more

A MyAutismTeam Member

When I hear stories like this, I love it but my twin granddaughters with autism who are now 21yrs old participated in the Special Olympics for 4 years but because of money issues and budget restraints… read more

posted April 27, 2022
Problems With Putting Too Much Food Into Mouth?
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Does anyone else have a problem with their kids putting too much food in their mouth at once? Little Man will literally put almost an entire half sandwich in his mouth at once and then try to chew it up. Is this an autism/sensory thing? That possibility just occured to me today but I don't know if there's actually a connection there. Anyone else have experience with this?

A MyAutismTeam Member

@vwmommy-Unfortunately, one of the twin autistic females in our family who is 23yrs old has been doing this for 10 years. We constantly have to watch her because there have been a few times that all… read more

posted February 1
How Can I Tell People About My Son's Autism In A Positive Way?
A MyAutismTeam Member asked a question 💭

Hello Everyone! I am new to this group - my 5 year old son was officially diagnosed as High Functioning Autistic a couple of weeks ago. He has been getting OT and Speech Therapy through the school district for almost a year now, so thankfully my fight to get him more services won't be as arduous as if I was starting from the very beginning. As I'm sure you all know, the road will be a bumpy one for sure, but I've got my binder nicely organized and I'm gathering all my paperwork so we'll be… read more

A MyAutismTeam Member

Hi, there! I just now read your post. My son is also high-functioning, so boy do I relate to all the he'll grow out of it comments. I knew something was different from the beginning and when he… read more

posted November 5, 2019
Anyone Ever Lose Friends Because Of Their Child's Autism?
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I had a friend that this past year was also my sons preschool teacher. During the year I never really noticed that she seemed like she became real distant. The other teacher had mentioned to me that my friend did not really know how to handle Kade when he had his meltdowns. I honestly did not say anything I figured my friend would ask me if she needed help I trusted her and Kade seemed happy enough with school. So now that school has been out two months for Kade and the lack of text messages… read more

A MyAutismTeam Member

First of all, maybe your son needs special teachers who are trained to deal with children with special needs. Speak with the school! Request that your child be placed in classes where the teachers are… read more

posted May 26, 2017
How Do You Feel About Pressure From Schools To Mainstream Your Child Out Of Special Ed?
A MyAutismTeam Member asked a question 💭

I'm worried that Ryan will be forced to give up his unique perspective to comply and fit into mainsteam classes. He is only in Pre-K and there is pressure being applied to get him out of special ed into regular Kindergarten by next year. I feel they dont know him well enough, and with his delays I think it's setting him up for failure
Can I hear from parents with children that have gone the route into mainstreaming, and some thoughts on how to deal with the fear that my son is going to be… read more

A MyAutismTeam Member

I homeschool one of my kids for this reason. BUT not all parents can or have the patience to. So for me. I was mainstreamed but also put in special ed classes. Most the kids in Special education were… read more

posted February 14, 2021
Does Anyone Have Advice For How To Respond To Rude Comments From Strangers?
A MyAutismTeam Member asked a question 💭

My daughter has a lot of sensory processing problems which we are working on with OT. These challenges for her become extreme when we need to take her grocery shopping . The rude comments from strangers has been getting worse... Before they would say something to me or give me the "bad parent" glare but lately some have had the nerve to say things to her. A few weeks ago I actually witnessed 2 adult women photographing her while laughing at her unique way of lining up plastic forks at our local… read more

A MyAutismTeam Member

I would have said please delete that photo since you don't have my permission, and further amore your comment is very rude towards my daughter and I. I get that alot at target also with my daughter.

posted April 28, 2023
Cartoon Dealing With Asperger's/ASD
A MyAutismTeam Member asked a question 💭

I usually have PBS on for my kid to watch and I overheard a cartoon called Arthur...episode name: George and the Missing Puzzle Piece. It featured a character, Carl, with Asperger's. When Carl had a meltdown at school, it showed how confusing it was for his friends who didn't understand. Eventually they learned why Carl acted in such a way,what made Carl different from them, and how to better relate to Carl. After the cartoon you'll see some real life kids talking about living with… read more

A MyAutismTeam Member

It says the video is not playable.:(

posted September 2, 2014
Has Autism, Or Is Autistic?
A MyAutismTeam Member asked a question 💭

I'm curious to know what others say when characterizing their young child's disorder in a context where it's necessary to identify it, such as arranging for special accommodations.

"I have a child with autism."
"I have an autistic child."
"My child is on the autism spectrum."
"I have a child with special needs."
"I have a child that is smarter than me but can't tie his own shoelaces."

Don't mean to stir up controversy. I'm just interested in how others feel about this.

A MyAutismTeam Member

I have Aspergers and I'm not offended by any of them. I of course am not special needs but my son needs special accommodations at times. I think it depends on the person you are speaking with. If you… read more

posted February 14, 2021
How Do You Get Through Hygiene Care Without Meltdowns?
A MyAutismTeam Member asked a question 💭

How can I get my 10 year old aspie son to shower & brush his teeth without melting down? The toothpaste, regardless of brand & flavor
Causes him gag and sometimes, vomit. The shower thing is beyond me..once he gets in..he sings along to his shower music (the beatles ) and he is fine. How do you do it? And I will sing your praises forever if anyone knows of a flavorless toothpaste or one that's NOT bubblemint,cinnamon,mint ect...he LOATHES cinnamon & anything mint.

A MyAutismTeam Member

Hello-My daughter used to give one child a shower and then once they got out, she would brush her teeth but this caused a major meltdown so now during the shower while the water is going......shower… read more

posted April 27, 2022
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