I agree with the comment above. I also would like to share that IEP meetings are a great opportunity to address your concerns with school staff. Make a list of your concerns and bring them up at the meeting. The meeting is intended to identify who is on your son's team and what each person's role is. There is a section of the IEP that allows for special accommodations. This will be a sure way to implement a daily note to you with specific details of what happened during the day (instead of the usual happy face/sad face notes). Hope this helps!

You need to go and see the teacher after school. Make an appointment and it's early in the school year to make your concerns known. If she is a mom talk to her to get her to be compassionate to your situation. I taught school for 3o years and always tried to keep the parents wishes paramount to my day. He is your kid and you are his best teacher but you need to know about his day to talk to him about it. My son is nonverbal but I still talk to him about his day and he understands me. Keep trying don't give up. Create a journal page about things that you would like to know about his day. There is plenty of time for the aide to fill it out daily Keep me posted as to how you made out.

I find emails to the teacher are a quick way to find out what has been going on in class. My son also has email and he can send me notes during the day while I'm at work. The older he gets the better communication from his teachers.

Dear Eileen, PC and MD, thanks for your responses, very much appreciated, my son has a one on one who is with him all day, but according with the district the person who can write his journal is the teacher, no sense to me, is like I am asking them for some outrageous favor, so frustrating, something so simple, he had a good day, no so good today, he greet someone, he noticed something or participated or did something new, as simple and short as that, seems imposible. (do I need a meeting for that) Observations are with the protocol, schedule it first, because of the schedule I have at my part time job is difficult to meet them at the end of the schoolday, I do have a huge amount of respect and admiration for teachers and all the staff that work with all kids but specially with kids in the spectrum, not easy, but is hard for me to never know what really happens with my son at school or are his days so meaningless that there is not much to say about them. SO SAD:(

Unfortunately I have found that a face to face with my son's team usually was the best way to get the communication lines open at the start of the year. I would first start with his teacher that he is with most of the day usually the classroom teacher. Call and try to set up a face to face meeting with them, or better yet drop by the school and 'surprise' his teacher with an impromptu 'hall meeting' as I call it as soon as school lets out at the end of the day. This usually seems to light a fire to get the communication flowing daily. It takes time and is a challenge, but it has worked WONDERS for us in the past :D Especially if the teacher will not return emails or calls in a reasonable amount of time or gives me the run around. My rule is I give it 3 days after my first phone call or email. Then I send an email and make a phone call where I leave a message if still no contact in an additional 2 school days I'm at their door 5 min. before the end of the day (or waiting in the office depending on the school). It's a pain to do that, but once they understand that you are a mom that WILL have regular communication with the they get the point :D I usually come in with a big smile and start with the whole "I can't even begin to understand how busy you are, but we need to communicate regularly so lets figure this out together" (that usually softens them up, because it's true they are immensely overworked and extremely under paid for what they put up with, and their help is being cut left and right). Keep fighting for you kido hopefully things will open up soon!