"parentingtime.net" has been WONDERFUL for us; it is a web program, that helps parents document, sched. and TRACK parents parenting time! go to the website and mess around with the demo; it has been a great resource for us and it is admissible in courts :)

Exactly. Documentation is all law is. The winners have the most and best documentation. Try and track communications, be it phone records, text records...emails are the best way to communicate because it's easy to print the documentation at any time. Try video for missed visitations. Document EVERYTHING! Even video the child's response to the missed visitation, how it affects him, if at all. The judges have to take that into consideration as well.

Document everything. Just write down everything you your wife & the Ex are doing and present it to your lawyer or judge.

@ Spectrumdaddy, we are in Iowa, another one of those " good ole boy farmer" communities. Worse yet, our case is in Henry Co. IL, which is even more so, due to bio mom's grandfather being a big name in that town with lots of money ( wish his good nature and sense of taking care of family rubbed off on his grandaughter). We are financially ruined over this stuff with T. So many states do not have provisions for special needs kids, and nor do they care. Try the parentingtime.net, and contact state reps, and what not. Thank you for standing by your wife and the child; Not to many of "step" parents are willing to this job. :)

I am not "step" per say to Tj either. I have been his steady mama from the start. But his literal thinking mind; I am still NOT mom. I love him with all of my heart. I refuse to call him step son, he is my "bonus" son. I understand your predicament. His bio mom's bf was abusing him over the summer, and he would come home an absolute mess. His bio mom has told Tj that her bf is more special to her than he is and that, and I quote :" I will not stop talking about him, I actually LOVE him". So, I get you guys totally!!!! Wish you all the very best with this mess.