"But that's not the way it's supposed to be!" is a common thing we say when our expectations fall short. It happens to all of us. Some members of MyAutismTeam have found the practice of "allowing and letting be" in the midst of a trying to be a way to minimize anxiety or heaviness.

Mindfulness experts suggest a few ways that we can notice -- not push away -- how we feel during difficult moments. There are physical responses we can notice (heaviness in the shoulders, tightness in the chest), and we should also take note of our emotional responses to disappointment (blame, self-doubt, exasperation). These can be opportunities to realign our expectations and extend grace to ourselves.

Here are recent conversations from MyAutismTeam:

• "I am strengthening my daughter's body and soul. I might get her a life coach/personal trainer that is going to help with her get into shape and be more positive about her self. A new journey has begun!"
• "So glad I came about this site. We often feel alone on this journey."
• "As Autism parents/guardians/caretakers, we may put our children's needs first and never address our needs let alone our wants. And I don't mean the occasional "I wish there were more hours in a day so I can get more sleep." I'm talking about living a lifestyle that balances the best in you so you can bring forth the best in others."

Share how you respond when things fall short of your expectations in the comments below or directly on MyAutismTeam.com.