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Acceptance: Realigning Expectations and Extending Grace to Ourselves

Posted on August 29, 2018

"But that's not the way it's supposed to be!" is a common thing we say when our expectations fall short. It happens to all of us. Some members of MyAutismTeam have found the practice of "allowing and letting be" in the midst of a trying to be a way to minimize anxiety or heaviness.

Mindfulness experts suggest a few ways that we can notice -- not push away -- how we feel during difficult moments. There are physical responses we can notice (heaviness in the shoulders, tightness in the chest), and we should also take note of our emotional responses to disappointment (blame, self-doubt, exasperation). These can be opportunities to realign our expectations and extend grace to ourselves.

Here are recent conversations from MyAutismTeam:

Share how you respond when things fall short of your expectations in the comments below or directly on MyAutismTeam.com.

A MyAutismTeam Member said:

my motto- not in this world to meet your expectations and you aren’t in this world to meet mine. Be who you were created to be, the best version of… read more

posted about 1 year ago

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