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Looking for some ideas/suggestions on how to help my teeneage son with Asperger's remember to do his chores, homework, etc. I've tried every motivator I can think of, and he's even frustrated that he is unable to remember to do these things. Reminders needed for taking meds, feeding the dog, turning in homework, chores, personal hygiene, etc.
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@A MyAutismTeam Member I have aspergers, and I can tell you a couple of things.
1. Rewards are NOT the most important thing to us. It really isn't. We value succeeding, and doing the right thing more than anything else. I know this is 2 years out but there will be more things that are like this.
2. Affirmation when we do the right thing is one of the most meaningful things. I strive to do right and good, and I wait for the 'Yes' part otherwise I don't feel like I am doing anything right. Make sure you tell him when he's doing something right.
3. Don't rely on the school to do it for you. I went to a school for 9 years that did not offer any special ed classes or anything of that sort. I had a "plan for success" (an IEP) that had things like extra test time and stuff but I never was able to have extra help with things like making sure I do 'Tasks'. It is possible to not have someone else do it for you
It took me years before I was able to start handling things on my own. ask him if he knows how many Mg of his meds he takes.He will probably know. In the morning my mom just puts it by my plate and I am expected to take it. But the first while if you do something like that you just have to make sure that he takes it and then eventually it will become routine for him. Feeding the cat, I found that setting an alarm on my ipod helped a lot. I also use a "myhomework" app that I am allowed to put in my homework for that day during class then put my ipod away. I also struggled with Hygiene, just by putting a list on the mirror or on the door or next to the bed that's there everyday there will come a time after a couple months that he will get into a routine and when that routine is broken he will go back over the steps in his head and fix what he missed.
Things get easier as they get older. Keep track of the improvement and look back at it when it gets harder. The little things will give you strength for the bigger things.
Look into structured teach methods as well...there are some really good examples for color coding school materials in the home and school enviornment (using folders).
I agree with me2. A visual schedule with everything on it that you would like him to do. Also, have him check it off as he completes the task. My daughter has Asperger's and this works well for her.
A simple routiene and use a chart or schedual. Pictures are helpful. We use a schedual and a dry erase board with "today" events/plans ect. We also use a goal chart. Our goal chart was a big hit with our asd kids and NT daughter. Each month we set the prize ...chuck e cheeze...hiking trip, movies...ect...we write the voted on prize trip on a poster board...that is the "goal" and every day we track "points" toward the prize/goal
unfortunately, our kids only seem to care about rewards. Try a rewards chart. The picture communcation (PECS) tool is also useful in helping our kids remember to do things. My son loves having an itemized list and yes rewards (skittles)
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