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Hi, I'm a step mom to a 10 year old boy who was diagnosed with PDD-NOS back in 2005. I met his father in 2006 and we were married in 2007. I have always been at his ARD meetings and since my husband works I am usually the one that picks up his son from school on Thursday's and every other weekend
My husband and his ex wife do not get along and it's apparent that she loathes me, even the sight of me
My husband is active in getting his son therapy (Occupational, speech, social skills etc)… read more
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@A MyAutismTeam Member..you sound so adorable & sweet, I am not going to be sooo nice right now, because I am fustrated by the BM attitude in general. Transportation doesn't fit her what? are you kidding me? WOW!! Listen girl....no easy on you, get tough, and tell her, that your husband has chosen you as HIS wife, that means You represent Him! Whenever he is present or otherwise. You have a responsibility to both husband and "son". when you married , his son was also part of the marriage family too. Wether the ex like it or not is absolutely irrelevant. Your husband can even provide a legal notorized letter stating that you are to be at the meetings as His wife. You see, really she isn't putting her son first...she is still worried about her ex, and you...and that is a reflection of her character as a mom. i feel sorry for her really, she is sad, unhappy, and angry. Teamwork would be ideal, but tell her you'll pray for her, and that God heal her heart.good luck
That your husband's ex loathes you is no surprise, you are beautiful! I think you are doing a great job and ought to keep your chin up and not let her get you down. You do have to follow the court's orders though as hard as that can be. I think that little boy is very blessed to have a concerned stepmom - most would do as little as possible and here you have stepped in to fill in wherever you are needed. That's commendable. Keep it up!
A step parent has the same responsibility to a step child as does the real parent. While in your custody they are yours to care for, love, and meet their needs. I have gone above and beyond for my stepson who lives with us full time. One can't walk away or look away. Don't feel bad for caring. Keep plugging along. Technically she can't demand you not be at the ARD meeting because he goes to two homes and you are at the one home. Perhaps they could hold two meetings? one with her and then another with you guys via teleconference ? that way your hubby can call in to.
He is the one who CHOSE to have two families. It's all on him. He had a child with special needs and that should have taken precedence over having another child with someone else. You only care for the child every other weekend which is nothing. And then transport him 30 minutes every wednesday? His father can hire someone to do it if he's at work. But you also chose to be this kid's mother when you married this guy knowing the situation.. so ignoring the child is bad also on your part. I think if you are really fed up then your husband should find a nanny type person to travel with the child to and from home.
I am the stepmom, going to court with his ex too. I will always do what is best for our son, irregardless of his mom. if we don't then we aren't being the parent we need to be whether step parent or not. My heart loves Zach as my own.
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