I think there are women who are super-frustrated with their exes (fairly or unfairly) and it kind of spills over into their general opinion of men. Raising a SN child is so stressful, and it's unfortunately easy to scapegoat the father, especially if he is no longer in the picture on a daily basis. It's really hard to take a step back and recognize that it is the situation one finds frustrating and not so much the person.

I think men tend to be more internal and private about their feelings in general anyways, so naturally this would be prevalent in cases of fathers of children with Autism? That would be my guess. This, and traditionally women tend to have more interactive hours with children, especially in those years under five, so they are going to get the full blow of everything- doctor appointments, social fallout from other moms, difficulty with the schools. It's not that dad's don't experience these things too, but they are in the minority. It would be appreciated I'm sure if they could identify on the same level, but I don't think that most of them do. Some are in denial, true, and some have a more difficult time, but I think proximity is a major factor here. Mom's are just "there: more, so you're going to see them "here" more too.

beautifully put! I ask myself that same question a lot. I love my husband dearly but I do see him as held back/reserved about anything autism related. Maybe it's a denial thing?? I wish I knew that answer, it my help me understand my own husband & his thoughts/feelings. Thank you for being so open on this matter. It was a beautifully put question!

I agree denial, maybe self pride.

most men are in denial