Hand to the shoulder, soothing and calming words with a matter of fact attitude, sometimes when it gets real bad he needs some time out in his room and letting him write about it sometimes helps him.

I sing soothing song at in his ear, and cuddle him in my arms, his five years old. Also when we are in a public place I put a blanket over his face and he feels better. If you can afford an Ipad it helps a lot.

When dominique[13u=yrs] gets upset and on a meltdown,i play her favorite songs,which is Adele right now..lol the power of music calms her almost instantly

Radio. Classic Rock has been Kate's favorite for most of her 21 years. It can be calming. Really.

Sensory diet activities like dry-brushing, massage, weighted vest, etc. She also loves watching YouTube videos on the laptop or her big sister's iPad. She will be 4 in January.