Oh I definitely will not give up and I will be swinging the whole time. I really think that the only way I will get my son back is by going to the media. On may 6th I will find out if I must get my local new station involved. I will go as high over the courts heads as I have too to get BOTH my boys back. Thank you for the support and I may need a little guidance when it comes to the channels I have to go through to be heard loud and clear.

Thank you sanececil for the support. In my world that does not come easy. Majority of the case workers at Dss do not have children of their own much less know how to handle an autistic child. When I went with 2 Dss workers to take Jacob to the hospital in VA, it was the worst 8hr ride for Jacob and myself. He threw up everytime he ate something, even crackers. Then about an HR away from the hosital Jacob melted down. He kicked and screamed and slammed his head anywhere he could. I had to take him out of his seat. But because we were. Late the Dss worker would not stop to let Jacob calm down. When we got to the hospital a Dr took us on a tour. When we came to the playground where older children on the spectrum were playing one of the boys asked the Dr if she seen him go down the slide. She said yes and asked if he could do it again. The boy being approximately. 14 said to the Dr, no bitch the slide is wet. He said it as if he talked to her like that often. She payed him no attention to the remark and just simply said, oh OK. Well of course the 2 Dss workers behind me gasped and started giggling to each other. After we left the playground. The Dr proceeded to tell us that the child had been in an enviornment that cursing was used often and he picked up on it. But to the boy he was not doing bad by cursing. She said that they ignore it and give him other words to use. About 2months after that both Dss workers were still talking about the boy with their coworkers, kinda like using what the boy said as a joke. I was highly upset and told the Dr about, but because no names were being used they could not say anything about it. My son does not speak and I would give anything to hear him say even, mama. And these Dss workers want to make fun of another boy that speaks. Idc what my son says as long as its a word. They don't understand how I feel, plus after that I'm always in fear that they use my son as a punch line for their lunchbreak jokes... they ha e no respect nor idea what an autisum mom goes through daily, and obstacles that the child has worked so hard to reach. I look at it this way, karma is a bi*ch what side of karma are they going to be on when it hits.

allyson, dss always trys that crap with parents like us. we give up our lives for our kids and it aint good enough for those people even tho we are doing what noone else could. screw them, keep fighting and keep your chin up!

gina your very blessed tho that you were taken seriously so early on, him getting help now means a very good chance he will do good. i wish u luck!

I know how u feel there on being overwhelmed with all the therapies. I dealt with them til my son turned 3 and he had to go to school so he could have more support there. After years of therapies and behavior visits with a Dr that told me to ignore my son. He was stupid for not knowing how to handle an autistic child. Jacob would try to put his head through walls, and hurts himself when he gets upset. But after all that my son was not making progress. Then Dss stepped in and said he was too much for me to handle. Keep your head up though. Every child is different in their own way:) all unique and worth every minute

My son was just diagnosed 2 weeks ago with asd, he is 10 months he will be 11 months on Tuesday. I knew from birth something wasn't right and made his doctor a where of things starting at 5 months. It was actually easy to get him diagnosed because he has all the characteristic and he isn't hitting any milestone on time. He starts 2-4 hours of therapy 6 days a week tomorrow so I am extremely overwhelmed mom right now.

yes he was diagnosed thru the school at age 5.
finally.
and i have had ssi since shortly after cuz the worker helped me with it.
but he costs way way more in damages etc than we get. way way more.
i just moved and checking here for services hoping they will be more help than the
past ones.
my child has always been too hard to handle and ive needed help a long time.
he first broke my nose 5 yrs ago. so this stuff is nothing new.
i have moved over and over and over. it does not help so far so if it didnt
help this time then it wont. hes much happier here and we are too so we are staying here.
the last advocate we dealt with was as shitty as the school she worked for.
i cannot afford a lawyer or id of gotten one long ago. im sick of how the schools do him.
the last one didnt even want him there. neither of the last two. we keep moving mainly cuz
the crap schools.
i will look into the dds thing.

i am not the perfect parent but im sorry i wasnt gonna just throw my son in a home at age 3
which is when everyone started bitching at me to do so cuz they didnt want to deal with or teach him.
lack of resources is not a reason to lose my son. its bs that there are not more resources for kids of his
severity that need the help the most.
my son didnt GET to where he is now. hes ALWAYS been this way since a toddler. that is what you dont understand.
i didnt just neglect his needs and he became this, this is who hes always been.

im glad you got the help you need but its hard to get or find. and they keep saying there will be more resources
and help in the future for kids but i need the help now and for my kid. and im sick of everyone telling me they cant help
and to just put him in a institution. people dont even want to try.
i know my son, he will never be mild but he can be helped. hes in there and full of love.
he wants help. he deserves it!
his last two schools hate us and im fine with that. i hate them too.
im glad you got what you need for your child. hopefully i will too. we will see i guess
but thanks to people not wanting to help our son, its gotten to where its wore us down so much
that a home temporarily is gonna end up our only choice before any miracles finally start happening.

the world wins. as usual.
gage is breaking everything. gotta go.

@SaneCecil does your son have an actual ASD diagnosis? Have you applied for SSI? You also need to check with the state that you live in to see if there are services available. Your child is becoming too hard to handle and you need help, so if you are in a state where there is nothing and you cannot afford to pay for services on your own you need to move to one where they will. We chose residential as a last resort because we did not want to be where you are right now, and the earlier you start with the intense treatment the better the results are going to be. If you are not getting anywhere with the school system or stat you need to get an advocate to help out, and if worse comes to worse a lawyer. Our state agency DDS (department of Developmental Services ) paid for our advocate ones my daughter was approved by them and their program.

We had a discussion with the residential team and they told us the mistake that is made is that parents cannot let go and get their children the help they need and they put things off to keep them at home, and it just keeps getting worse. My daughter just turned 7 and they believe she will be in residential for about 2 years, and then they can transition her to the day program and back to living at home .They say with the intense therapy they can provide she will never get to where your son is now. I will tell you we lived in Florida and they would not pay for this so we moved to MA where after a year’s worth of dealing with the school system they did. The school did try everything, but ultimately knew our daughter was not safe in their care during the day and had to agree to pay for it because if something were to happen they would be responsible. We certainly could not afford 360K a year so we are glad they decided to do it.

My wife met with the school system last week and they are not mad at us or giving us a hard time for making them do this, they said they knew she needed it but they had to do their due diligence before ageing to pay for residential. They also could have chosen to pay for a lesser school and decided to go with the best, so they knew what she needed, even if we had to get an advocate.

My son is 6 and was diagnosed at 18months simply because he did not speak and would not purposeful play. When he was about a year old he would say a few words. I always thought my son was having seizures and noone. Believed me until he had a massive one at 10months. After that he forgot how to talk and to this day will not talk. Studies are being done that prove that a child with autisum could talk later butwith a lot of therapy. My son does not react to any therapy he recieves. Studies have also shown that infants that keep their hands up to their eyes is an early sign of autism. My son has grown aggressive and only hurts himself. And was eventually hospitalized for 8months so a Dr could monitor him and his medications. Inderal which is used for high blood pressure was the best thing that he was put on for his aggression. But he has a long road ahead.