I self-referred to Early Intervention at 19 months when our pediatrician (whom I do like in general) wanted to take a "wait and see" attitude. Then when the director of her EI preschool recommended moving DD into a class for more serious delays at 27 months, I self-referred to a developmental pediatrician. Again our general pediatrician advised waiting. By the time that our general pediatrician finally admitted that she could see the signs of autism, DD had been receiving EI services for over a year. If you think something is wrong, get on the waitlist to see a developmental pediatrician or a pediatric neurologist. Both of those are qualified to make an initial diagnosis.

sorry my computer is acting up. so it posted it before I was finished. My son is also obsessed with the alphabet has no sense of danger and has a high tolerance for pain. He is also not potty trained yet and he'll be 4 next month. He has speech delay.
I hope you find a good doctor, because a good doctor would listen to your concerns about your child. honestly what could it hurt in getting him evaluated? The things you just mentioned sounds very well like he could be on the spectrum. Good luck to you. I know doctors can be frustrating before we found our current doctor I had some bad experiences with doctors. I had one doctor that treated me like I was a terrible mother because my son is so small. well of course he's small we can't get him to eat. maybe some people on here can get you a list of good doctors in your area.

MyZett , thank you for the site.

and Snowyowl7 thank you for sharing so much.

my son only eats about 6 different foods if we try to get him to eat others it ends in him screaming kicking biteing punching ect. we eather have to give in or at times he does put himself to bed and we try to get him to eat it the next days he will not eat at all that day till i get scared that he will get sick. he did not talk till he was 2 amd they had us check his hearing but it was fine. now his scholl says he does not hear well again? he hates when things change if i try to feed him before noon for lunch or 6 for dinner he won't eat cuz it is too soon but if i try feeding him at like 6:01 he freaks cuz he missed dinner. his headstart teacher says he is the smartest kid in his class he catches on to things fast. we can't tell him about us doing fun things till right before cuz he gets way to excited he will not sleep and get cranky but than after we do the stuff he acts up for like 3 days after that too. he runs and runs and runs and never slows down trying to get him to bed is a fight he goes till he passes out from being so tired. he has to have our dog go to bed with him. he will not sleep if he does not have his pillow sleeping bag, blanket, and the same 4 stuffed animals every time. he stutters very bad. his mood changes so fast i never know what will happen next. we try to punish him by putting him on time out but he does not stand in time out to try and get him in we have to carry him to the time out and be beaten up the whole way in the end we have to hold him on our laps hold his arms down and keep him from head butting us. idk i keep getting told this is normal kids stuff i need to keep my temper better, and that i need to discipline more, do more with him ( i take care of my father in law who has ms so i don't get a lot of time to play well i run the house). i don't know if this is more than that or not. i am so confused

CrimsonWife thank you i will take it into my won hands :)

Snowyowl7 again thank you. and wow i know the no danger thing my son will do anything and it takes a lot for him to be hurt. ( he only seems to know he is hurt when he see blood) i have seen him run in to a wall full speed and just smile... he also loves his ABC's but learning in general. the kids shows on Disney, PBS, and Nick he can watch them all day and answer everything and throws such a fit when they end. he loves to learn with them so much that we got netflix for him so he can watch the shows when ever he wants.

he has seemed to have learned some of my OCD's like having to have everything clean, and nothing can be moved out if place. and others.

thank you all for all your help :)

Ask for referral or self-refer to a development pediatrician, or look at local agencies in your region that can do screening and make referrals. In the interim and regardless of possible diagnosis, get early interventions given the delays (don't need diagnosis for this in most places). The "wait and see" approach is not early interventions. Even with referral, we didn't want to wait months or years for an appointment, so we got diagnosis from a psychologist privately who is also qualified to make the diagnosis when our son was 2 years old (and still waiting for appointment with development pediatrician a year later!).