I would say absolutely yes. I still feel guilty. It doesn't mean I AM guilty of anything, though. It is a normal response. We try to find answers and control In situations where there are no answers and we have no control.

The guilt always continues, well past the diagnosis. Why didn't we push for more speech therapy, why don't we take them to more public places and just endure the meltdowns. We should have gotten rid of therapist A early, and pushed them to eat more fruits when they were really young.....

.... welcome to Autism... where you can be the best parents in the world, and do everything that is in your power for you kids, but still feel guilty that they are not like little Jimmy down the street.

Oh yeah. Dad was too old. Moms meds for GI disease. That wine I drank.... That hard birth that shd have been a c-section. My husband is good at talking me out of it. I mean, what can you do!?

We used to feel guilty but do not anymore because we came to the realization it is not our fault and spending time wording about it does no good and does not help anything.

You will find that your time is better spent getting the services you need and dealing with the now, than dealing with the past and things that were not in your control.

Yes. I think it's something we all go through. There wasn't anything you did wrong. There is a strong genetic component to autism and you can't help your genes. And if there is an environmental component, you didn't expose your child to anything on purpose so there wasn't anything you could have differently. Silly platitudes aren't going to help right now but I can tell you it gets better.