With Brie, I just have to let her know in a rahter affirmitive way that she needs to shower, due to her health ( she also has dermatillomania ) and has eczema, having to use aquafor and has to use it when her skin is damp -- I have her bathe in our Masterbath so I can keep all her tolitries in our cabinet to monitor their usuage -- I often knock and step in to confirm she is on "track" and taking care of things ( washing, rinsing, using shampoo for hair, etc. ) I also will ask her when she comes out and check behind her to confirm the tasks have been accomplished and then I ask her to record it in her spiral showing me it was done -- this was a huge ordeal to get these steps in process but seem helpful and the bathing is going well -- I would say every other day at worst but if I feel she needs to get in the shower, I will ask her to get cleaned up ( letting her know it will make herself feel better ) I often ask her to do so, letting her know I want to go outside and take pictures of her, and she quickly retreats tot he shower then, so she will look nice in the pics :-) Nevertheless, girls to me seem to be way harder than boys ( more steps ) Hugs and Love XOXOXOXOX

My daughter and I struggle with this too -- She is limited with remembering and due to her TBI, during her menses and bowel movements, I literally have to ask over and over if she wiped and got clean, and if she used the baby wipes to clean herself thoroughly -- She does not tend to these specific things well and will soild, towels and undergarments if I am not proactive in reminding her and checking back with her after eat bathroom use. She tends to forget to brush teeth, use soap in the shower and use deoderant. Its hard, but you have to get a notebook and work with a routine and teach them the skills, hold them accountable and have them check the items off the list one by one to instill the activity was completed.

My son is 17 and will not take a bath or brush his teeth alone. If i didn't make him take one and clean him myself it wouldn't get done. He doesn't care.

I wish my 18 year old would take care of himself. Hygiene has always been a problem and continues to be. His bad case of acne isn't even incentive enough.

My son would live in the bathtub if we would let him,but pottying is another issue altogether. He just doesn't want to go most of the time.And any drs appointment is a REAL chore.I wish I knew something to help,just know that you aren't alone.