My son is only 6, but I make the list. I see what he wants, and then I pass it on. I come up with the ideas with him. Of course, he wants everything! I actually suggested to him that he ask for gift cards from friends, since he gets presents that he absolutely hates. He loved the idea of being able to pick out his own stuff! I know people would rather gets actual gifts, but if that's what makes him happy, then I think it's perfectly ok!