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Sibling Of Autistic Individuals: I Am Worried About Starting My Own Family. How Do You Deal With Your Fears/concerns?

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I am a sibling of two autistic young adults. I want to start my own family, but I am worried about (the possibly increased chanced of) having an autistic child. After witnessing my parents' struggle to provide my siblings with the support that they need, as well as the struggle to keep themselves and their marriage together, I question if I will be strong enough through that experience myself, as well. I would like to connect with families or siblings of autistic individuals who might have gone through the worries that I am having at this moment, and hear about your experience. I think that can teach me a lot about how to deal with my own emotions and concerns. Thanks!

posted May 23, 2015
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New study out about risk and severity of autism decreases for high-risk siblings of children with autism if moms take prenatal vitamins in their first month of pregnancy, according to research released this week by the MIND Institute at the University of California, Davis.

Says B vitamins are very important - even before you conceive and during that first month. Reduces chance by 50%. Unfortuanatley my youngest was unplanned and a boy after twin girls 3 yrs prior. So he did not get prenatal vit that first month. He is also the only one w autism. Although my husband carries a lot of traits. So genetics plays a role too of course. But this could be promising preventive.

If you want to read for your self I read this on Disability Scoop. 5 $ a month to join. Or try googling Pub Med for Mind Intsritute UC Davis as it could be the actual study. Sometimes they are free but others require subscription to journal.

Good luck!!

posted March 4, 2019
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I stayed to help raise my brother, who is Autistic. And still am with him now he's an adult. No regrets. But U'm not here to tell you how to run your life. Just do everything you can for them. My brother loves to exercise and play learning games. Along music and reading. I myself have become a writer and studying Photography also.

posted September 10, 2018
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I'm a speech therapist and have been working with special needs children for many years. That was one of my biggest fears because I saw the daily struggle of parents. When my daughter was diagnosed, it didn't matter to me because I loved her so much and I still felt blessed to have her as my daughter. I used probiotics throughout my pregnancy and did everything possible for a healthy pregnancy. One thing I would do different is taken a prescription probiotics several months before conceiving and during pregnancy. That's not to say it's going to prevent autism. But I feel it's a good thing to do.

posted May 29, 2015
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Hindsight being 20/40 .... I would just do what seems the least harmful for autism and autoimmune. I was 36 and my ex was 42 We has two girls affected... The one current thing that seems to be something I hav really paid attention to is the state of the mom in the trimesters... Especially the last one.., there seems JMO to be a big connection with something as simple as being to acidic of an environment.... My mother had MS and the immune system when acidic as opposed to alkaline is very taxing on the body and inflammation seems something easy to keep at bay with adding a bit of baking soda no more than one and a half teaspoons and lemon to water and lots of water throughout the day.... Helpful to your health as well.... I am not sure but I believe a neutal body ph may possibly reduce complications for all pregnant woman... New stuff... Research for yourself and good luck to you! blessings!

posted May 26, 2015
A MyAutismTeam Member

I would recommend getting tested for MTHFR mutations and taking methylfolate (rather than folic acid).

posted May 24, 2015
A MyAutismTeam Member

You may want to have kids at a younger age (under age 35) and marry a man who is relatively young (under 40?) as well to reduce the risk. It's not the sole factor but it is something to consider. There's always adoption but I'm told that's not an easy option either.

I don't think I could tell you more about the effect of autism on a family if you grew up with two siblings with autism.

posted May 24, 2015
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From my own experience, I would STRONGLY suggest that you learn--and accept--what causes ASD, since you probably have a genetic makeup that is more affected by the things that cause an autistic reaction.

I first heard of autism when my grandson was diagnosed, and in our research and discovery regarding my grandson, we discovered that my son has Asberger's syndrome.

Autism isn't caused by genetics. If that were the case, autism would not be present among recent generations in such large number when compared to previous generations. Genetics doesn't work like that.

Genetics can however, determine how susceptible an individual is to receive harm from any particular thing though. As an example, genes can determine how susceptible someone is to sunburn. In the case of ASD, genes determine how aggressive our immune system is.

If your body is stronger in fighting invaders, then your body is more likely to develop autism as a response to vaccinations.

Once that domino is knocked down, then other immune reactions occur, one domino after the other, which is why if you are going to have a baby, I would strongly suggest that you whittle the vaccinations down to a bare minimum, or breast feed your baby for two years like human beings used to.

Here's a lecture by neurosurgeon Dr. Russell Blaylock that I would suggest that you watch before you make your final decision.

I hope that you learn what's safe and what's not, and have a happy family with your baby.


posted May 23, 2015

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