Hi @A MyAutismTeam Member, sorry you had to experience those hurtful words that pull at your heartstrings. WAS it family or strangers?
We experienced both. With family, i am very upfront and honest and say he is having a hard time with. And doesn't know how to express himself, then leave the room to find a quiet place for my son to calm down. We chose not to go to alot of family functions because they didn't want to learn or help us with our son, so sacrificing a party for a happy boy, i still would do anytime.
On the other hand, strangers, i used to ignore their comments. And take a little longer in line helping my son count out money to pay for something he wanted. The ignorance is the hardest thing to accept from the public and even family. But as the years pass you learn u taught someone about autism and maybe it will be spread to others to lesson the ignorance (unknowledgable ).

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Yes, I agree I was thinking the same thing old school way of thinking?
I wasn't raised being spanked but I do remember my mom slapping my hand (not even hard lol) but it hurt my feelings that bad that I still remember like it was yesterday .
Even people we generally trust like teachers and therapists don't fully understand, because they don't live with autism 24/7 nor are they as emotionally invested to loving our children like parents do.
But as shy as I am, I would be furious if someone suggested spanking my son as a solution.

Hello JenniferMendezGerard, your reasons for being is the same reason I am here in this group, they done for more me in the 2 weeks I've joined then those who been around since my son was born, and they also prove to me that they really care, because if it wasn't so, my son would never had the great Christmas he had yesterday from the MAT team when they discovered we had a house fire this month and lost half of our things, this is a great group so welcome to the team.

I agree JasonAnderson. We haven't spanked often, and that's our parenting style. That's not the answer. Besides, I have seen the effects of spanking on kids. We know that all the discipline in the world will not guarantee a certain outcome.

Yeah. We believe in the reward system. We used a token board for years in the beginning andvit really helped. What i dont like are these "ten years" special ed teachers that refuse to learn something new and that you cant fit a square int a circle, no matter what you do. I'm just grateful, i was able to find a fantastic CBI program for high schoolers that is run by a great district and wonderful people. My son was given so much abuse by his 9th grade teacher, and it was in a county special education system.