For everyone that has a young child w autism and then had another baby, how did your child react and do w the new baby? Would you say it had a positive effect on the child or difficult for a bit? Also how hard was it to deal w your child's issues on top of the care of a new baby?
probably the hardest part of a new baby is watching how effortlessly the baby learns things that our son has to work and work at. We have an older daughter as well and it is lovely to see how much the baby loves both of them and takes each just how they are. Even though our son is non verbal with limited play skills.
Our son is 6 and we have a 4-month-old. For the most part he just loves his sister and it's gone very well. We did a lot of preparation telling him what it would be like including good and bad parts. We also constantly remind him that it's a journey and his sister will be changing, for example she may not be able to crawl yet but soon she'll be going around messing with all his stuff, able to play games with him, and so on.
He enjoys interacting with her and she seems to just love attention from him, even when he's doing something adults may find annoying.
With two children it is definitely harder to be the parent you'd prefer to be all the time. There's only so much time, energy, and patience to go around. But I guess kids have been OK despite that for millennia ... so we try to cut ourselves some slack. Still I would say there have been some behavior regressions and things like that, and I'd blame them on less consistent and attentive parenting from us, for the most part. On the other hand, he's also learning some more independence and patience and developing a relationship with his sister. It's definitely a good thing for him overall I would say, but some rocky moments. Adding a family member is a big change for everyone.
That's good to know:) Thanks @A MyAutismTeam Member
BTW Nathaniel was very good with Gabriela as well, who is 4 yrs younger than he. They have been best buds all her life.
We have 5... 1-3 are HF Autistics, with 2 having most difficulty. 5 was born April 2014 and 2 (who was 8) threatened to run away but has actually been the best with the baby. He gets upset but is the most protective and careful with Alexander. Of course, Nathaniel still has his days and I have to watch him, but he did adjust and now loves his little brother.