I am an only child, my son with SAD is an only child. Some people are made to be parents who can have multiple children on the spectrum but I know I am not. I just didn't think it would be fair to my son or to a new baby to do that bc the child on the spectrum will need your attention 24/7 For the rest of your life???

Hi Meghanblake, I too had a couple of miscarriages myself, along with difficult childbirth complications. I had wanted to have at least 3 children but when my son was diagnosed, my husband and I decided not to. If I had to do it over, I would've had more kids so that they could've watched over my son I have now, when I eventually die. It's scary, the unknown, and how life will be for my son, once my husband and I both pass. If you can do it, I would advise you to give it a go, just keep in mind, it won't be easy.

I would consider genetic counseling at a university for my wife and me before I would choose to have another child. My son's diagnosis has definitely made me think of this.

My 2nd born is ASD. When my older sons were 9 & 10 I had another baby boy after being diorced from my older 2 sons dad. Because pregnancy causes you to worry I looked up the chances and believe I read on one study the chances went from 1 in 55 boys to 1 in 5 if they have a first cousin or sibling on the spectrum. He had 2 cousins and a half brother. Well at 10 months old my 3rd child said words and was very social so out of mind. Then I became pregnant again and since I didnt see signs with my 3rd borm I didnt worry until he was delayed at 6 months for sitting up. And then 10 months for not crawling and he was 18 months before he walked. He now just turned 2 years old and while we dong have an official diagnosis I know in my heart he is like his older brother. I worry because he is nonverbal and limited social skills. But all moms worry about all their children. God has a plan for you. I never planned on having 4 children but I wouldnt have it any other way. And honestly... i have four sons and i think my asd children are easier sometimes than my neurotypical sons.

We had our second kid before we had the ASD DX on our first kid. People talk about how different their kids are but when ASD enters the picture you can see even greater differences.

Doctors recommend women should space 3 years between births and you should stop having kids by age 35 due to increased risks of birth defects as you age. I'd also read that fathers 50 and over have greater chances of having a kid who develops schizophrenia later.

I (I'm a male) was over 40 when both of kids were born and I wish I had them earlier but I didn't have the opportunity.