It depends. I have been a SAHM since 2006. My husband retired three years ago and he is still busy but now has a more flexible schedule.

My kids are older now so they are used to days or nights when my husband is just too busy to spend time with us.

The challenge is a proper date night, but we are working on that. There is a comedian we wanted to see next month (out of town) but we changed our minds because we didn’t want to bring the kids with us. Lol oh well! The comedian doesn’t have any shows here in the SF Bay Area.

Both.... My son's nights where he sometimes stays up very late are generally weekends but I look forward to him being home from school and spending more time together

I'm 59 so there aren't many employers interested in hiring me except to flip burgers or work in a factory/warehouse. I already did those jobs almost 40 years ago. My wife works erratic hours as a travel nurse so I can't give set days or hours to an employer to work. I'm stuck dealing my kids ages 12 and 13. In this state you can leave your kids at home starting at age 10 but that doesn't apply if your kid has autism because bad things could happen. My kids have never had babysitter and none of our relatives near here. We are pretty isolated from society because our family members are selectively social and since neither of the parents grew up around here we don't interact with many locals. Many of my ancestors lived to be fairly old and it feels weird to know that I could be living like this for another 20 to 30 years when I would like to work in an ok job and making something to retire on. Many parents of ASD kids go on to have forever stay at home adult kids so it never ends which most parents can't relate. I'd rather have my 13-year-old daughter marry some guy in the future who can support her because I know that there has to be some lonely guy out there.