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Lompoc, CA

I feel like I could use some advice from others who have gone through this. My son is six and in kindergarten. He has ADHD and level 2 ASD. He has an IEP and has a supportive special education teacher. He is in a regular classroom with 20 other kids. We have worked with the school and his teachers endlessly to try different things to help him get through the school day, but it’s a massive struggle. He gets bullied, he struggles interacting with other kids and gets anxious when he doesn’t… read more

November 16, 2025
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Members rallied around a parent struggling to decide whether to keep their six-year-old son with ADHD and autism in a traditional classroom or... Read more

Members rallied around a parent struggling to decide whether to keep their six-year-old son with ADHD and autism in a traditional classroom or explore alternatives like homeschooling or a smaller special education setting. Several members shared personal experiences and practical advice, including requesting a tour of smaller SPED classrooms (which typically have 4-7 students), not letting school staff discourage parents from exploring all options, and trusting parental instincts over professional opinions that may not align with the child's individual needs. A recurring theme was empowerment through advocacy, with members emphasizing that parents have the right to see all available classroom options, seek legal help if necessary, and ultimately make decisions based on what truly serves their child best rather than what's most convenient for the school system.

A MyAutismTeam Member

@A MyAutismTeam Member thanks a ton for the full story. That pretty much exactly describes my little guy’s situation. I have a meeting with his SPED scheduled so I will look into what it would look like to get him into the smaller classroom.

I cannot thank you all enough for your honesty and willingness to share your experiences. It helps so much.

November 19, 2025
A MyAutismTeam Member

Hilary3- I was once in your shoes and I've learned so much w/ the schools having had both kids w/ Autism. I wish you all the best

November 17, 2025
A MyAutismTeam Member

@A MyAutismTeam Member that’s a really good idea. I hadn’t thought of that. I will ask for a tour and get more information. Thank you for being honest with me. And you are totally right, I do have to focus on what is best for my kiddo. I struggle not knowing that answer a lot of the times, but I’m learning.

November 17, 2025
A MyAutismTeam Member

@A MyAutismTeam Member haha! Thanks for the enthusiastic response.

November 17, 2025
A MyAutismTeam Member

I just want to add something so you can see other options- have you looked into a smaller spec ed class that would only have 4-7 kids in it? Your son would still have an IEP.

November 16, 2025

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