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January 10
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A MyAutismTeam Member

I had a neighbor that called the police for welfare checks on my son. Eventually she stopped after we got to know each other. I have always been worried about that but the neighbors before her had 4 kids and were noisy. My current neighbors also have alot of activity so don't complain. Maybe you would get better neighbors if you switched building because really I think only a-holes complain about noises from loud kids and crying babies..... I hope things get better.

January 10 (edited)
A MyAutismTeam Member

Melissa4
I am sorry to hear about your property management interfering with your daily activities and progress with your family. Since May is not that far away and you end up deciding to move out of the current area here is some information.

Reporting Suspected Harm: CPS investigates reports of abuse or neglect; autism itself isn't neglect, but a parent's inability to meet a child's needs due to lack of resources could trigger an investigation.
Parental Rights: CPS must follow specific procedures, and parents have rights, including knowing the allegations

For autistic individuals in Orange County, CA, property management involves finding inclusive housing, often through organizations like The Kelsey or the Autism Housing Network, utilizing CA Dept of Developmental Services (DDS) resources for supported living, and exploring options from group homes to independent living with varying support levels, often requiring Medicaid/waiver funding for services, with key OC providers including OC Regional Center (North Orange County/Central) and non-profits focusing on supportive housing for neurodiversity.
Key Resources & Organizations:
OC Regional Center (North/Central) (North Orange County/Central): Serves individuals with developmental disabilities, including autism, connecting them to services, support, and housing options in OC.
The Kelsey: Focuses on inclusive housing development, policy, and connecting families with resources for neurodiverse housing.
Autism Housing Network (AHN): A national network with local presence, offering housing solutions for autistic adults.
Autism Speaks / IACC Resources: Provides guides on housing options, funding, and housing initiatives.
Types of Housing & Support:
Independent Living: For those needing minimal support, often with community-based assistance.
Supported Living: Apartments or homes with staff providing training and support for daily living skills (e.g., through OC Regional Center).
Group Homes/Community Care Facilities: Homes with direct care staff for individuals needing more intensive supervision and training.
Inclusive Housing Developments: Newer models designed to integrate neurodiverse individuals into general communities.
Finding Property Management/Support:
Contact OC Regional Center: Start here for eligibility and local service coordination.
Explore Non-Profits: Look for local OC groups like The Kelsey or AHN chapters.
Research Providers: Search for "Supported Living Providers Orange County Autism" or "Neurodiverse Housing Orange County".
Funding:
Eligibility for Medicaid waivers (like California's Community First Waiver) is often necessary to fund significant residential support services.

January 10
A MyAutismTeam Member

Just for more info, I have already contacted property management and forwarded letter from ABA company, myself, and her diagnosis. I have already explained she is autistic to neighbors. I have emergency alert stickers in my window and door that I have a special needs child. I have provided paperwork to police and CPS however they will not retain for their records because their is no case because all police reports to CPS are positive and that children are safe. I was told every call is treated as a new potential case so they can call whenever they want and they have to respond. I do not like that my children are being repeatedly questioned if they are being hit even though they are clearly intellectually disabled. I am feeling very stressed from this situation. My lease is not up until May. Property management feels if they move me to another unit same thing will potentially happen. Also moving my entire household for a few months seems like an overwhelming task.

January 10
MyAutismTeam

How do you handle neighbors who verbally assault you and call police/CPS during your child's meltdowns?

This is an incredibly stressful situation, and you're not alone in facing judgment from others. Many MyAutismTeam members share experiences with rude comments and difficult reactions from people who don't understand Show Full Answer

How do you handle neighbors who verbally assault you and call police/CPS during your child's meltdowns?

This is an incredibly stressful situation, and you're not alone in facing judgment from others. Many MyAutismTeam members share experiences with rude comments and difficult reactions from people who don't understand autism.

When dealing with neighbors who don't understand, consider these approaches:

Educate when possible: Some people simply don't understand what a meltdown is versus a tantrum. A meltdown is a loss of control due to sensory overload - your child isn't being defiant, they're overwhelmed and need help regaining control.

Document everything: Keep records of your child's diagnosis, any therapy or treatment plans, and incidents with neighbors. This protects you if authorities are called.

Connect with authorities proactively: Consider reaching out to local police or CPS yourself to explain your child's condition before issues escalate. This can help them understand the situation if they receive calls.

Focus on prevention at home: While you can't control neighbors' reactions, having strategies to help your child through meltdowns can reduce their frequency and intensity. This might include a calming kit with favorite items, deep breathing tools, snacks, and water.

Remember, a MyAutismTeam member shared ignoring unhelpful comments and going about their business. Sometimes that's the best approach when education isn't possible.

You're doing your best in a difficult situation. Your child needs your support, not judgment from others.

January 10

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