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A MyAutismTeam Member asked a question 💭
Tucson, AZ

My life was actually going well until my mom got cancer & died last year. (about 4 months ago by the time of me writing this) She was practically the full-time caregiver of my sister. And thus, I've been having to take care of her since. (I'm 19 & she's 23 but acts like a toddler) And in all honesty, she's very stressful to deal with due to her needing 24/7 supervision. I got fired from my part-time job (a retail position I held for about a year) due to missing too many shifts. I've also been… read more

February 27
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A MyAutismTeam Member

Does your dad care for her as well? I assume you both live with him, but I could be wrong. That is a lot of responsibility at only 19. I know that it must be a lot to juggle, especially with school! I was still very much a kid at 19. I don't even feel much older than that now, at 42 ;) Perhaps if you had someone to share the responsibilities with, you could spend more quality time together and still have time to do what you need/want to do, too. This way, you wouldn't be as exhausted and you could enjoy time spent together.

February 28
A MyAutismTeam Member

The Arizona Division of Developmental Disabilities (DDD) offers a way to support families who need Habilitation and Attendant Care services for their child. If you are unable to find enough help from other providers, you can be paid to provide those services yourself.

Empowering Autistic Arizonans — Free Employment Services and Training for Families with Autism. Join our mission to create a world where everyone can thrive. Autism Resources. Autism Support.

Autism Speaks and the AZ Autism Society would provide other resources and support

AZA United offers individual, couples, and family psychotherapy & counseling services for individuals with autism and their family members.

https://www.azahcccs.gov/shared/asd.html

Arizona offers numerous resources for autism and mental health support, featuring organizations like Arizona Autism United (AZA United), which provides counseling, therapy, and diagnostic services for all ages. Major providers include Arizona Autism for pediatric therapyThe Mental Health Center of America for evaluations, and the Autism Society of Greater Phoenix for support groups.

Key Resources and Services in Arizona:
Comprehensive Evaluations: The Mental Health Center of America offers diagnostic evaluations for children aged 2-5.
Counseling & Therapy: AZA United provides psychotherapy for individuals and families, focusing on coping skills and self-esteem. CARD (Center for Autism and Related Disorders) offers ABA therapy.
Support & Community: The Autism Society of Greater Phoenix hosts monthly online 101 classes, support groups, and meetups.
Supportive Housing: First Place AZ in Phoenix assists adults with autism in increasing independence.
State Support: The AHCCCS ASD Advisory Committee provides resources and recommendations for autism services in Arizona.

Mental Health Focus
Autistic individuals are more likely to experience mental health challenges, making specialized support crucial. Services in Arizona often focus on managing anxiety, improving communication, and developing social skills to support overall mental wellness.

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February 28
A MyAutismTeam Member

Talk to social worker and get her supported living accommodation or assisted living accommodation. My son is supported living accommodation and it has been really beneficial for him as he has 24 hr care and two or three carers looking after him all times.

February 28
MyAutismTeam

How can you balance caring for your sister with autism while protecting your own mental health and future?

First, I'm truly sorry about your mom. Losing a parent while suddenly becoming a caregiver at 19 is an enormous burden that no one should face alone.

Your feelings are completely valid. Many siblings of people with Show Full Answer

How can you balance caring for your sister with autism while protecting your own mental health and future?

First, I'm truly sorry about your mom. Losing a parent while suddenly becoming a caregiver at 19 is an enormous burden that no one should face alone.

Your feelings are completely valid. Many siblings of people with autism experience similar struggles with balancing their own lives, feeling embarrassed, and worrying about their future. You're not alone in this.

Here are some steps that might help:

Seek Respite Care
- Contact your local Easter Seals chapter or similar organizations that may offer respite care for families
- This gives you breaks to focus on school, work, and your own life
- Even a few hours weekly can make a significant difference

Explore Long-Term Care Options
- Your sister may qualify for government assistance programs for adults with autism
- Group homes or supported living arrangements exist specifically for adults who need 24/7 supervision
- A social worker can help navigate these options

Have an Honest Conversation with Your Dad
- You need to clearly communicate that this arrangement isn't sustainable
- You have your own life, career goals, and future to build
- Finding professional care isn't abandoning your sister—it's ensuring she gets proper support while you can still be her sibling, not her caregiver Take Care of Your Mental Health
- The stress you're experiencing is real and documented—siblings often struggle with these responsibilities
- Consider counseling or therapy to process your grief and current situation
- Remember that caring for yourself isn't selfish—it's necessary

You deserve to pursue your digital art career, have relationships, and build your own life. Finding appropriate care for your sister isn't giving up on her—it's recognizing that she needs specialized support that allows you both to thrive.

This situation requires immediate action. Start researching care options and have that difficult but necessary conversation with your dad soon.

February 27

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