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My brother has mentioned he's ready to die, he's been showing up at my mom's place which is an independent living. The director was told to keep him from coming in w/no success. My mom is afraid for her safety

March 26
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A member reached out for help managing a sibling with Bipolar Disorder and Autism in their 60s who was showing up aggressively at their... Read more

A member reached out for help managing a sibling with Bipolar Disorder and Autism in their 60s who was showing up aggressively at their elderly mother's home and expressing a readiness to die. Several members offered practical strategies including minimizing stimulation, validating emotions, identifying triggers, and using visual schedules, along with a helpful resource on autistic meltdowns. A recurring theme was balancing safety with family complexity, with suggestions ranging from a no-trespassing order to involving a minister or lawyer, while the original poster shared the emotional weight of a long, difficult family history.

A MyAutismTeam Member

Thanks🙂

March 26
A MyAutismTeam Member

Of course. I hope it works out.

March 26
A MyAutismTeam Member

Allison2-thank you so much. Unfortunately we don't have any family members that can talk to him because he's beyond this now. However, my mom said there's a Minister where she lives and they were able to calm him down. He won't listen to anyone he feels he was wronged when he wasn't. My mom has a lawyer and she's going to see if the lawyer can help. Thanks again.

March 26
A MyAutismTeam Member

If he is really upsetting her the police can do a no trespassing order but he would be barred for the property at least a year and law enforcement would be called if he came back. Once the no trespassing is issued it is a felony to violate it but I am not sure how extreme you want to go. Something like that even for safety definitely strains family relationships. Is there a family member he would listen to about maybe taking a break from visiting awhile on his own? That's hard......

March 26
MyAutismTeam

How can you help an adult with autism in their 60s who's experiencing anger and crying fits, especially when they've mentioned being ready to die?

This is a serious situation that requires immediate attention. When someone mentions being ready to die, it's a mental health crisis that needs professional intervention right Show Full Answer

How can you help an adult with autism in their 60s who's experiencing anger and crying fits, especially when they've mentioned being ready to die?

This is a serious situation that requires immediate attention. When someone mentions being ready to die, it's a mental health crisis that needs professional intervention right away.

Here are immediate steps to consider:

* Contact a crisis hotline (988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or take him to an emergency room if he's in immediate danger
* Reach out to his doctor or mental health provider to discuss his current state and medication management
* Consider calling for a wellness check if you're concerned about his immediate safety
* Document incidents, especially threats or concerning behaviors, to share with healthcare providers

For your mom's safety, setting clear boundaries is essential. The facility director should be informed about the severity of the situation, including any threats or concerning statements he's made.

Long-term, your brother may benefit from:

* A comprehensive evaluation of his current treatment plan
* Increased mental health support or therapy
* Possible adjustment of living arrangements if he needs more structured care
* Connection to adult autism support services in your area

This is an overwhelming situation for everyone involved. Consider reaching out to other family members or trusted friends who can help share the responsibility of supporting both your brother and your mom during this difficult time.

March 26
Hi, this is just a check-in, based on a phrase you mentioned. If you — or anyone else who sees this — is thinking about self-harm, we want to say that you are an important part of this community. No part of this is easy, but there is support that can help. Read more >

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