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My son is 12 diagnosed with AUS, I have had sole custody of him for a week and feel like I am crashing and burning most days.
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Members rallied around a parent who recently gained sole custody of their 12-year-old autistic son and was feeling overwhelmed, offering both... Read more
I got custody of my grandson in march. I had all these Grand ideas about having him pull his own weight, he's 16, but I soon realized that what I needed to do is create an environment where he felt trust , peace, safe and loved. It's too soon to enforce rules I believe. Just make him feel comfortable making him feel wanted don't know the reason why you got custody but transition the simplest of transitions for these kids is overwhelming. Concentrate on the fact that he's new in your home.
When teaching tasks to my son I would do them in the summer when he was off from school because that's when he wasn't stressed. I started with one or two tasks per summer. Then every summer work on another one or two tasks.
You must look after yourself in order to look after your child. Rest or take breaks and see doctor or therapist and get some advice for yourself
Managing chores with autism can be challenging due to sensory processing differences and executive dysfunction. To make tasks more manageable, use clear visual checklists, wear noise-canceling headphones, or use adaptive tools like gloves. Start by breaking large tasks down into bite-sized, predictable steps to reduce overwhelm.Autistic individuals, including adults and children, often experience specific barriers when it comes to household chores:Executive Dysfunction: Autistic adults and older children frequently struggle to initiate tasks or sustain them. The mental energy required to sequence tasks can lead to task paralysis.Sensory Processing: Many individuals find certain household noises (like vacuums) or textures (like dishwater and raw foods) physically uncomfortable.Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA): The stress of perceived demands can trigger a natural, involuntary avoidance response.Effective Strategies for SuccessVisual Schedules: Create clear, sequenced, visual checklists so the exact expectations are obvious. Checking off each completed task provides a tangible sense of reward.Adaptive Tools: Reduce sensory overload by wearing gloves, noise-canceling headphones, or comfortable clothing while doing chores.Body Doubling: Try doing chores alongside someone else, or set smart-speaker alarms and timers to help with initiation.Make Tasks Sensory-Friendly: For sensory seekers, chores like vacuuming or carrying heavy grocery bags can provide calming, regulating heavy-work input.Explore tailored resources and practical tips for making your cleaning routine more comfortable using guides from AutismBC or Autistic Parents UK.
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@A MyAutismTeam Member that's an awesome room idea! I just downloaded an ADHD room cleaning app that I plan to try this evening. Hopefully I'll find it helpful 🙂
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