You are absolutely not alone. It has to be doubly difficult while dealing with you own health. I feel very blessed that my son just one day decided and it was done. Have you tried pull ups? Maybe they would help a bit with the messes and a bit easier than doing laundry all the time. Although it might be taking a big step back...

MY 13 yo DD still has bowel issues. It is a sensory issue iwth the toilet. To pee she sits on the edge and pees down the side. She is scared of the toilet. I have seen videos of people on the Spectrum who all state they do not "get" potty training, they are frightened by the toilet, it intiates terrible sensory issues etc. Have you tried a potty chair? Might be different? Otherwise it is a social story/therapy thing. We are still working on it with the social story. She used to pee in the school hallways to avoid the bathroom all together. Now she will pee in the toilet most of the time. SHe misses but she is at least trying. Good luck...

try these piddlers (link below) and see if you can get him to "sink" them :) We call them boats and tell our son to sink the boat :) I also tried a 2000 flusehes bar to chang ethe color blue and told him to see what color he could make it by peeing and mkaing it turn green :) Good Luck! http://www.pottytrainingconcepts.com/Toilet-Tar...

My son is the baby of 4 and he competes with his 6 year old sister who acts like his twin more than anything. I've honestly tried using her as an example, etc. like some of the suggestions I've read but he is so strong willed and he just isn't going to do it if he doesn't want to. I have severe rheumatoid arthritis and my health hasn't been the best lately, so it's nearly impossible to follow him around constantly and clean up the messes, not to mention all of the wet underwear to be washed. Doing my best but feels like I'm not keeping up here sometimes. Glad to know I'm not alone in my journey. :)

My son is also 4 and refuses to potty train. In his defense, the little man has been through a lot of moves, as well as a divorce in the past two years of his life and as soon as he starts using the potty, we either had to move or something else happened. He hasn't been formally diagnosed but he has a lot of the sensory and inattention issues like my 11 y/o with Asperger's. This is very frustrating because parts of our family just say he's a brat and spoiled... and if I hear, "he's just all boy" again, I may go nuts. lol. Am having him evaluated on the 13th and will pass on any potty suggestions. All of you are in my prayers! :)