You just brought back a memory. When my parents were living near Boston (1990) my Dad reminded me that he had read an article and thought that Alex (my son) was displaying the same symptoms as children diagnosed with autism...to this day I don't even remember the conversation but he told me I said "no Dad you are wrong" (This was 1.5 years before the diagnosis) I can now see and understand what some of your daughter's anger might be. I think she is very frightened and not ready to hear that her daughter 'might' have the autism diagnosis. I really think she needs a lot of time to digest it. I also think she is just not ready to hear it. Today is Thanksgiving and I think you maybe you could call her and tell her you love her and maybe even ask what you can do for her. Later, when she's ready you will be an incredible resource for her. I think the most important thing right now is your relationship with your daughter. This is a tough one and boy do I feel your pain..another Thanksgiving Hug to you!

I was put in a similar situation several years ago. My sister's son has faced many obstacles very like my middle son. I've approached her several times with my concerns and never have they been openly listened to. There is always one excuse or another. Her son is exactly 1 year younger than my middle son and 1 year older than my youngest son. It took forever to get my son diagnosed but we had therapies in place from the time he was 1. I keep trying to explain how much easier it would be if only they would be open to some help. He is now 6 and in Kindergarten, my 5 year old has passed him up which brings on all new stressors between my sister and myself. I continue to try and talk with her and help in anyway I can.

oe i think that she sees it as well, and wants to pretend her child will grow out of it.

I agree with Blache, it isn't easy to hear things from your parents, but i still don't think you were wrong. you love her and that's what she needs to know, that your a loving concerned parent and for now leave it there. I didn't talk to my mom for a year due to a different situation, I know how angry a grown child can be about their own kids. I would say be gentle, loving, and when she's ready she will come to you. Give it some time, but let her know your there for her for anything she needs. I've personally been able to patch things up with my mother, but I'm sure it took lots of prayer on both our parts :) take care and I wish you and your daughter the best.

I am THANKFUL for this forum....I have never really interacted and only started a couple days ago...it is such a blessing to be among those who understand and can relate. Happy Thanksgiving to you all!!!