I am interested if anyone gets the answer as well.

That would be great to work on if we had any services. We do not have any help right now, only me Mom the EA. We have been working on this tone of voice and rudeness for awhile, just not clicking. Maybe it is an age or hormone thing, I have no idea but, I welcome any suggestions. Thanks

We have been working on volume of voice. Now that my son has turned 13 he is insistent that he is just "talking back" when he is having an out of control meltdown. He is so fixated that he will not listen to any other view point. I do think a lot of it has to do with hormones.

As Dave said, it just takes training. I had an SLP working for two hours/week for two years, and he sort-of, slowly got it, or at least learned the correct pattern to emulate.

If you figure that out, let us all in on your secret.

Tone of voice, body language, facial expressions, and metaphorical language are apparently very hard for ASD kids to understand. We started by showing him pictures of kids that were "happy", and tried to add facial expressions first.

On a test, he can identify facial expressions (fairly well), but in real life, they happen too fast. Body language can also be learned from pictures, but applying it in real life is harder.

The only thing I can recommend is practice, practice, practice. Typical kids learn things by watching peers, but ASD kids learn things when someone explains it to them.

The other day, in class, a teacher explained to my son that when you read a sentence with a question mark, your voice usually goes up at the end. It seems obvious to us, but it did not seem obvious to my son, or to any of his class.