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How Do You Wash Your Child's Hair?

How Do You Wash Your Child's Hair?

Jacob is 10 and haircuts and hair washing is huge problem. I am trying to find anyway possible to help him feel more comfortable. I have tried to cut his hair at home and he gets so anxious he will start vomiting, I have tried a salon and he shuts down or panics. It's the same situation with washing his hair. He really doesn't like baths or showers and when I try to wash his hair, he cries, panics or shuts down. I have used baby shampoo so it won't hurt his eyes. I bought a handheld sprayer so… read more

A MyAutismTeam Member said:

Hair washing has been and still is a challenge. BUT we found that N is much more comfortable in the shower. He has more control over getting his hair wet (when, how, how long, etc.) and, now that he's 12, it's more appropriate for us to not be seeing him when he's doing this part of his self-care routine! He often is willing to get his hair wet (again, this was a discovery at age 11).
Not so sure how often he uses the shampoo, or what exactly he does with it (does it touch his head? Is it lathered and scrubbed around?).
I've sent my husband in a few times to observe/enforce; not as effective when Daddy is the good cop and Mommy is the bad cop.
He discovered the hand-held shower can be removed from the holder and the settings can be changed, so that was fun for him.
Good luck, and hang in there! Sometimes these kids just move inch by inch at a turtle's pace with self-care activities.

posted over 3 years ago
A MyAutismTeam Member said:

My son also strongly resists all hand-washing and baths. He loves water parks and pools and will happily jump in and swim underwater but he cannot tolerate a shower at all or any water splashing into/near his face in the bathtub; go figure! Anyway, when he was younger I let him wear his swimming googles in the bathtub because it was the only way I could wash his hair without having to hold him down at the same time. Now I put just enough water in the tub that it wets the back of his head when he lays down but doesn't come too close to his ears. As long as I am very, very careful not to splash any water in his face or ears, he will lie still and let me gently scoop water to the top and sides of his hair to wet it and then to wash the shampoo out. He seems to feel more secure/in control with that scenario instead of water coming at him from above. Not sure if any of that will help if your case but good luck!

posted almost 4 years ago
A MyAutismTeam Member said:

Sorry about late reply. My son is 7 yrs and same way. What helped for hair cutting at home is that I let him sit in front of a long mirror (dollar store) and draw on it with dry erase markers or we both make silly faces at each other. This lets my guy see what I'm doing. I also have small hand mirror in case he wants. For bath time I have a shower head with different colors that light up when the waters on. All this time. I remind him that this is how Thomas the Train cleans. "Shiny and Clean" song.

posted over 3 years ago
A MyAutismTeam Member said:

Try using the swimming googles that just covers the eyes when washing his hair. Once he trusts that no soap is getting into his eyes he may enjoy the hairwashing process.

posted over 3 years ago
A MyAutismTeam Member said:

Hi all Cameron is now 14 and it took us yrs to get here but he is finally taking showers, some quicker than others, sometimes he’ll wash sometimes he won’t, sometimes he’ll wash is hair and sometimes he won’t but we just keep repeating the routine and he’ll finally give in and have a proper shower.
So for us there was no quick and easy fix it was perseverance and trail and error.
I’ll try to brake things down a bit so it can be a multi answer that I hope will be helpful to more than 1 person.

When a baby: never really had any problems.

Toddler: These were the hardest, baths, when he would lie down he would pretend to be a crocodile doing a death roll yes hair wet, shampooing was fine rinsing a different story, once we got him lying down we tried pouring water over the back of is head but would panick and get up. So after many different things, playing in Bath with shower running cameron would collect the water in a jug and pour it, started with feet then legs working his way up to his head, first few times over his no shampoo until he got used to it then While he started at his feet I would wash his hair then he'd rinse it several times. Cameron then stopped with the jug and sat under the shower, I’d detach the shower so he could rinse himself and with his head down to his chest as long as I gave the flannel to cover his face and he’d rinse his hair this went on for years.

Then I had to think in front and get him ready for years to come when he was not my little boy anymore.

Teenager: Cameron adventually started standing in the bath under the shower so I could wash his hair and I’d give him the flannel and I’d say look up at the sky and watch the stars in your eyes and I’d rinse his hair. Thankfully by the time puberty kicked in Cameron was taking bathes and showers by him self even if it did take about 2hrs. Still know we have to remind him to wash is hair with shampoo and to use shower gel to wash with but most of the time he is fine.

posted almost 3 years ago
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