Maybe he’s getting overstimulated at school- too much noise or having to be on best behavior all day and he just crumbles when he gets home. Maybe you can go to school and observe the environment. See what supports he is getting there. My 8 year old started asking questions this year related to sex- like wanted to know the difference between girls and boys and what each looks like naked. I read a book on it and they said if you don’t talk with your kids about this stuff, other people will and it will be predatory (adults) or inaccurate (kids). So I got a body parts book for kids from the library and showed him pictures and answered questions, and very basic sex ed like told him men and women use their body parts to make babies and I didn’t get into specifics. It was also a good time to talk about his private parts and how no one should touch his private parts and to tell me if it happens. I know your son is non verbal but maybe you can have a special symbol he can use or even a written card he can pick up on days when something really bad happens to him at school and then you will know to go investigate. When my kid has behaviors, I usually start at school to see what’s making him uncomfortable and ask them to adjust.

Please get in touch with Anke Zimmerman. Google her. Don’t waste time, your son is young and can be healed

To get rid of some of his extra energy or stress from his day, try having him jump on one of those mini trampolines that are used for exercise, get a punching bag and boxing gloves for him and have him hit and kick at it, and if he likes the outdoors take him outside to swing, take a walk, run around, etc. Depending on sensory issues, he might like to paint with shaving foam on a big mirror, paint a picture, or smoosh clay or playdough.

Aw, I feel for you. There is no such thing as discipline with these types of kiddos, as hard as it is to remind myself of. My son is also 8, non verbal, and for lack of a better term, behaves like a cat on crack. Very aggressive, spits in my face, makes himself vomit & throws it on me, and covers me in bruises most days. I can only tell you, what I tell myself everyday, to keep looking, researching, and networking to find good ABA, psych, Neuro, all the works for you're son and family. It is true, the more he gets a reaction, the more it will continue. Hopefully you can get him into a good school program and therapy. And when he does those things, keep a straight face, walk into another room, and scream into a pillow😳🙏