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My daughter is in a residential treatment center due to severe bullying at her high school, thus causing depression and suicidal thoughts. Most of the kids at this RTC have behavioral disturbances due to other issues, and there is only 1 girl who is on the spectrum there. The school and treatment center are failing to meet her needs.. so much so, that they feel she might be a 'liability' when she has a meltdown and they want to put her in a State institution for a month and bring her back to… read more

October 26, 2012
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Members rallied around a mother fighting to prevent her autistic daughter from being institutionalized after a residential treatment center... Read more

Members rallied around a mother fighting to prevent her autistic daughter from being institutionalized after a residential treatment center labeled her a liability following severe bullying-induced depression. Several members shared actionable strategies, including researching schools specifically designed for autistic children (which school districts in some states are legally required to fund and transport students to), contacting advocacy organizations like The Arc of Maryland and NAMI, hiring an educational advocate or specialized attorney to attend IEP meetings, and emphasizing in meetings that bullying affects all children and that isolation from a loving parent will likely worsen her daughter's condition rather than help. A recurring theme was fierce support for the mother's instinct to stay close to her child, with members validating that she is not enmeshed but rather doing exactly what any good parent should do and urging her to keep fighting against a system that seems more focused on convenience than her daughter's true needs.

A MyAutismTeam Member

omg! um. hmm... try Nami... they might have some info. look around in Boston - i know they have alot of great spectrum help for kids... or i've heard, i'm clear in WA.

October 28, 2012
A MyAutismTeam Member

That is horrible :( I hope that you get the help you need soon and keep fighting for your daughter...good luck, we are all rooting for you!

October 27, 2012
A MyAutismTeam Member

Stop reacting to bullying the way she is?! Kids who aren't on the spectrum have difficulty at times, now add someone with a disability and it becomes harder. I hope you find the right person and soon! And I'm sorry, but reading your response has made me angry...you can never be too close to your child and as a parent we are responsible in making sure they are taken care of. What are the current lawyers telling you?

October 27, 2012
A MyAutismTeam Member

Do NOT send your daughter to an institution. It seems as though they are looking for the easy way out. Here in TX the school district is responsible for sending any child on the spectrum to a school designed only for Autistic kids if the school fails to provide what the child needs. They sometimes even have to provide the transportation. I hate you are going through this. My son is in 2nd grade and I just had him switched from one school to another where they had a program within the school for Autistic kids. I had to fight because they didn't want to transfer him. It is very important that your daughter be somewhere where others are on the spectrum with her. See (if you haven't already) if there are any schools in your area or near by that are designed for Autistic kids and see what needs to be done to have her transfered. Hope this helps!

October 27, 2012
A MyAutismTeam Member

Maybe an educational advocate, this is a lawyer, would be a good option. My daughter has one for her 7 year old with ASD who will be attending the next IEP meeting.

December 26, 2012

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